In confession I have authority to bind and loose, direction is different.
As a spiritual director I do not have authority but accountability.
Now, receiving spiritual direction should be an outgrowth of the sacrament of marriage.
A couple should get guidance when needed, just like a king would seek counsel, but it is counsel which is sought, I am not the authority or decision maker.” In our discussion, Fr.
Maximos outlined some red flags that might come up with a spiritual director. Remember the hallmarks of authentic spiritual fatherhood: mutual accountability, listening to issues and responding honestly, and Holy Indifference.
The monastery where I attend Sunday liturgy and other services throughout the year is small in size and number, creating a feeling of “family” that is not always present in larger parishes or religious communities.
My family and I have been blessed to receive direct and more often indirect spiritual guidance over the years in many different ways from each of the monks.
An over scrupulous director can be a problem; do not let scrupulosity into your own heart.