Harem members may or may not know about each other. It often comes as a great surprise to most women that the man they’ve been obsessing over, has actually been bouncing around from woman to woman.
Narcissists like secrecy, because if his harem members ever compared notes, the web of lies that they’ve been weaving would come crashing down and he would lose his stash of supply.
In the same way that a hoarder finds comfort collecting objects a Narcissist gains comfort collecting people.
They don’t trouble themselves with mundane things, like right or wrong, or other people’s feelings. To a Narcissist you are either Narcissistic Supply, Potential Supply or you’re nothing.
When you are with someone that seems to have a lot of previous relationships that just never seem to end, that’s a red flag.
Since I was shiny and new, I garnered most of his time and affection and this didn’t sit too well with the other women in his life, who had been relegated to the end of the line.Let’s be honest, a jealous woman can be incredibly devious and catty and guy with a harem, needing to be constantly reassured, would run to these ‘friends,’ and since they wanted me out of the picture their advice was always unflattering and self-serving. I had three or four of them send me friend requests on Facebook, looking to snoop into my life, hoping to dig up some kind of dirt.My appearance, my behavior was constantly under scrutiny by the harem and I had to eventually hit the pavement, because it felt like I was dating him and every other woman he had ever been involved with.Membership does have it’s privileges, but the privilege is all his.So do yourself a favour – if you find that you are being offered the friend card, read the small print and respectfully decline and tell him that you’ve decided to get a membership elsewhere. Join our subscriber mailing list and receive our weekly posts right to your inbox!!!