Something that I see a lot of people struggle with when and how it’s appropriate to approach and hit on women.
When you’re relatively socially inexperienced, it can feel like tip-toeing through a minefield; if you don’t know what you’re doing, you often run the risk of being creepy by accident.
The almost obsequious fawning in the message on Facebook makes it even more clear that this isn’t going to go anywhere good; sucking up isn’t a good look on .
So how do you gauge what’s likely out of your level?
At any given time, there are generally accepted rules that define what behavior is considered acceptable and appropriate for the situation.Pushing and pushing for Spelman to respond to him, switching social media platforms when she wouldn’t respond to him on the previous one?This is someone who’s demonstrating poor social calibration; he’s getting a very obvious brush-off and keeps trying anyway.You’re incongruent with the location and that can be incredibly creepy to people; it tells others that you either don’t understand the rules that govern what is and isn’t acceptable or you don’t .Someone who doesn’t care that it’s not appropriate to yank a book out of somebody’s hands or pull the earbuds out of her ears is sending the signal that they may well not worry about little things like “consent” either.